Is it ok for a guy to do this?

I had sex with this guy yesterday and he knows I hate being picked up and that I am a shy person. He picked me up and was holding me and having sex with me. I liked it but I didn't like he picked me up knowing I don't like being picked up. He was also trying to finger my anus..... I really disliked this very much. I was sucking on him when he was trying to do it so I kept moving my body away from his hands and I mean after like the 2 time he got to hint of no and stopped that. He was slapping my a$$ hard too. I liked all of it but the anus thing but he told me he would be nice next time. i liked it how do I tell him not to stop without sounding like a whore?